Dads Are Great Homeschooling Resources - Here's How They Matter  

Homeschooling resources come in all shapes, including the two-legged kind. Dad, you are the long bomb, the home run, and the slam dunk. 

Let me say first that I'm a fairly strong-willed female, and I've had plenty of experience going toe-to-toe with adolescent males during my 25-years' experience in the publics.

However, even though I now homeschool my sons, I'm still just there mommy, and sometimes my three sons need that extra push that I can't give them.

That's where Dads come in. So Dad, 

This Blog's For You!

As her most vital of homeschooling resources, you can help your wife be a more effective teacher to your children by using these simple strategies:

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Remember: Drive Time Is The Right Time

When you pull up into that driveway, your family has been waiting all day to see you.

The kids- and sometimes Mom too- may be running toward the car to see you, hug you, or tattle on someone.

That's when you need to make sure that 

whatever problems you had at work, stay in that car.

The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly - Be The Encourager

As one of the more important homeschooling resources, remember that at times your wife needs a boost in self-confidence and your wife, the teacher of your children, is no different.

All day long, she is trying to meet the physical, intellectual, spiritual, and emotional needs of your children at various stages of developmental. It is draining.

A few positive words can give her the strength. You are the best of her homeschooling resources that she doesn't have during the day.

For example, I remember a colleague sharing a story at lunch about the time when his wife  stayed home with their two boys.

He said that sometimes he'd walk through the door, and she'd say, "Please, talk to me, I need to have an adult conversation." I think it was a bit more urgent than that, but you get the idea.

Little ones can be exhausting.

I can't tell you how many times a day Moms post comments asking for a bit of encouragement and reassurance that they are doing the right thing.

You are the best of her homeschooling resources. 

 A few words of encouragement and praise from you, her most important critic and supporter, can give her the confidence to face another day.

Homeschooling Resources For Dads- The Dinner Table

If you weren't attacked in the driveway, dinnertime is usually when Dad learns how his family's day went. This is where you employ your homeschooling resources.

It all begins with the phrase, "Well, how was school today, (ask the oldest child first)?" This establishes a pecking order and gives the little ones training on how to talk at the table. 

Your responses should look something like this: 

  • the smile - Children will work extra hard for one of Dad's smiles
  • the "Good job, Cody" - The words, "Good job" and your child's name is a positive way to avoid using these other techniques. 
  • the raised eyebrows - a yellow flag to be sure
  • the concerned look - The kids believe that Dad doesn't worry about anything, so when HE looks concerned, there's trouble brewing.
  • the bewildered glance - This is Dad looking confused, but Dad is never confused so for him to look confused, the child knows she has to have done something very bad. 
  • the head shake - This is the disappointed one. No child ever wants to see the head shake because they know that Dad knows that they should know better. And he's right. 

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  • the comment: "Really?" or "I see." - Having to use the comment means that there will be more discussion on this privately. And it's not going to be pretty.

 Deciding which behaviors to monitor and which ones to deal with head-on can be daunting, but that's your job. Homeschooling resources are vital, so good judgment is the key. 

“In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.”


The Game Plan or
Mom and Dad Gang Up On the Kids 
for their own good 

“Just wait til your father gets home.”

No mom wants to say this, and no child wants to hear it. Of course, if a Mom has said it, she's lost it. But if a child hears it, and nothing happens when Dad comes home, there's a runaway train on the loose. Breakdowns like this can be avoided if Mom and Dad have a game plan. 

If your home is like most, the child or children know when they've taken it too far with Mom. They know if Dad gets involved, they're done for. 

So your child got the raised eyebrow tonight at dinner, and when you were kissing this child good bye this morning, you said, "Let's have a good day today," and you followed it with the look that says "Let's make this a better day than yesterday." 

This is what important homeschooling resources do. 

Now, kids forget things and your child is probably no different. Therefore, you and your wife know how to get the best from your children, so that's why I call this homeschool resources,, ----the game plan.

Before you and your dear wife close your eyes after another exciting day of family life together, decide 

  • Will you need to follow up with a mid-day phone call?
  • Will she need to send you a private hang-up call, that indicates to call and make it sound like you're checking up, not Mom asking for help? If there is a pattern of helplessness or forgetfulness, or defiance beginning, it's best to end it before it takes root.
  • A little reminder during the day may be helpful. This is what it might sound like: 

Husband: I forgot to tell you that I need that white shirt washed for work tomorrow. Sorry babe. 

Wife: Ok, I'll get that done. 

Husband: Now, honey,  I want you to say Okay or Better next. How are the kids behaving? 

Wife: Okay

Husband: Really. I guess the raised eyebrow wasn't enough. I'll be on it. See you tonight. Love you.

Here's what happens next. Depending on whether you call home often, your child may ask, What did Daddy want? Here's how this conversation should go:

Child: What did Daddy want?

Mommy: He asked me to be sure to wash a shirt for him and apologized for the short notice. I said, Okay. 

Child: But you said Okay twice. What else did he say? 

Mommy: He asked how school was going today. 

Child: But I'm better today.

Mommy: I did ask twice for you to open your math book and get to work. 

Child: I'm sorry. 

Mommy: Thank you. Now let's get back to work. 

The Ultimate of Homeschool Resources - The Private Talk

If you're a fortunate Dad, you had a father who gave you a couple of these "talks," so you know what I'm talking about. The private talk is the ultimate weapon of all the homeschool resources.

The private talk is only needed when there were tears or screaming in home school that day. Dad's job is to get school back on track with as little commotion as possible. 

Here's what I mean: I read a FB comment a while back where the mom posted that her son was now working much harder than ever before. Why? Because Dad had the private talk with him. 

She reported that Dad told his son that Mom was teaching the way she was teaching because she thought that maybe he was a bit slow at understanding the material.

Then, the Dad said, “Son, you and I both know how smart you are. You're just trying to fool your mom and being lazy. You don't want your mom to think you're dumb, do you?”

And just like magic, the son stepped up his game, and that was the end of it.

Be The Observant Dad

You may not be at home 24-7, but  that works to your advantage because you have a better, more distanced perspective than mom.

You're the sargeant, the observer, the analyst, and the coach.

You evaluate the players, give the pats on the back, and the talk on the mound. You're the secret weapon of all the homeschooling resources out there. 

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